Orgasm Issues in Women

What’s orgasm problems?

Orgasm is a feeling of intense pleasure that can affect the state of consciousness, accompanied by rhythmic contractions of the pelvic floor muscles. When you become sexually aroused increases blood flow to the genitals, and you can get hot in the cheeks and red on the neck and upper chest. The orgasm is a kind of “mass reflex” in which the entire body is in activity at once: Muscles contract, blood vessels expand, the genitals swell, pulse and blood pressure rises, releasing hormones and neurotransmitters, and brain electrical activity is at its peak. After an orgasm follows is often a pleasant drowsiness, and for mature and older men he often takes some time before they are ready to have an orgasm again while some women can have several orgasms in a row.

This is orgasm disorder, when in spite of strong sexual arousal does not achieve the desired sexual climax. It is also an orgasm disorder, orgasm feels less intense than usual, or if it even is uncomfortable or painful. As with other sexual dysfunctions distinction is made between primary and secondary orgasm disorders.

At the primary type of woman has never tried to have an orgasm, regardless of how she has been stimulated. At secondary orgasm disorders have the woman earlier in his life been able to achieve an orgasm.

In an orgasm frees up a number of hormone like substances (including endorphins, oxytocin, and dopamine) which gives a feeling of well-being, and which in some cases may cause stress-reducing or pain-relieving. Approximately every tenth woman has tried to “ejaculate” in connection with an orgasm, which means that injects a small amount of clear fluid from the urethra. The liquid is not urine, but is made by a series of small glands along the urethra.

How frequent is orgasm problems?

Orgasm Problems is a common sexual problem in women, but surpassed by complaints of vaginal dryness and loss of pleasure. Some studies find that 4-7% of the adult South African women have orgasm problems, other studies indicate higher numbers. Primary orgasm disorders represent a minority (probably 10-15%) of cases.

What is normal orgasm?

Women’s orgasm can be triggered by various forms of erotic stimulation of the sexual organs and other parts of the body. The clitoris and the vaginal opening is the most erogenous (sexually sensitive) areas, but, for example, stimulation of the breasts, nipples, mons and the area around the (associated with intercourse, masturbation, and / or sexual fantasies) also induce sexual desire and arousal.

In sexology childhood was discussed eagerly whether the “best” form of orgasm was achieved by stimulation of the clitoris or vagina (or. The so-called G-spot, which in some women describes the sheath front wall a few centimeters from the vaginal opening). The dispute was never resolved, but there is little doubt that both the stimulation of the clitoris and vagina can lead to orgasm. Most women get only orgasm, whose clitoris is stimulated. In effect, stimulating the clitoris, vaginal opening and the vagina often simultaneously.

Orgasms may be very different in strength and duration. Different women experience orgasms differently, like most describe that orgasm experience may change from time to time. Similarly describes many women also some development throughout life, and some say that it takes more stimulation to achieve orgasm, as they get older. Others think the opposite, that the sexual experience is improved with age and experience.

Cultural and psychosocial conditions affect both the desire and the ability to have an orgasm. The same age, upbringing, education, social class, religion, personality and relationship to one if necessary. partner.

What causes orgasm problems?

The most common psychological cause of orgasm problems is that it is difficult to give herself to the sexual situation. It may be due to performance anxiety, sexualy stifled upbringing, linking sexuality with shame, fatigue or stress. Alcohol, cannabis, drugs and certain drugs (eg, sedatives and antidepressants) may also be an instrumental hampered, delayed or unsatisfactory orgasm in both women and men.

Relationship problems can also play a role. You may have lost the emotional closeness or desire for each other. Jealousy, conflict, boredom and monotony of sexual activities may interfere with the ability to achieve orgasm.

Negative sexual experiences can leave traces in the mind, making it difficult to have an orgasm and in general to enjoy sex. This could be painful experiences or sexual trauma like rape and abuse.

Diseases such as diabetes, multiple sclerosis, cancer and depression can also impede orgasm, and the same can be damage to the nerve supply to the pelvis after surgery or radiation therapy.

What are the symptoms of orgasm problems?

Orgasm is something to learn, and at first intercourse is about a third of South African girls orgasm, while twice as many orgasms during intercourse a year after their debut. It is not everyone who gets an orgasm every time they masturbate or have sexual intercourse, and for some women, the sexual pleasure enough. But if you do not feel able to achieve a sexual climax – or if the sexual climax feels wrong or uncomfortable – there is reason to do something about it. As the first step should be to talk openly and honestly with its possible. partner. And then you can consider seeking advice and guidance from their doctor.

How is it diagnosed?

The diagnosis put you. Do you experience persistent or recurrent orgasmic difficulty that frustrates you or creates tension in your relationship, then there is an orgasm problem. Women who achieve orgasm during masturbation or using manual stimulator, but who do not achieve orgasm during intercourse, does not meet the criteria for an orgasm disorder, but may still need advice.

At the doctor you will (and possibly. Your parties) be asked about a number of things regarding your sexual life. The doctor will order a regular checkup and maybe suggest a gynecological examination (especially if you have pain during orgasm.) Blood tests are generally not considered.

What treatment is there?

Orgasm Problems have been tried treated with psychoanalysis, cognitive behavioral therapy, sexological exercises (including massage and so-called “sensuality training”, where you have sex without having actual intercourse) and drugs, but there are few studies that have proven the efficacy of these treatments.

What can you do yourself?

Check if you have enough knowledge about your own sexual functions and reactions. Maybe there’s something you’ve overlooked, misunderstood or do not know about your own body.

Most women need stimulation of the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Learning to caress the clitoris (possibly. With the use of massager, dildo, vibrator or shower head) may be the first step to getting orgasm. The kind of exercises can be done in private – or (if you like) with a possible. partner. This can then be followed up with a series of exercises that reduce performance anxiety and the psychological pressure, strengthens the communication between you and your partner and creating a safe and curiously erotic space to explore.

You can not force an orgasm. The harder you focus on wanting to achieve an orgasm, the more difficult it will typically be.

Other types of treatment

Cognitive behavioral therapy focuses on reducing anxiety and promoting changes in attitudes and sexual thoughts, which increases the ability to give and receive the stimulation. There are also exercises that the woman and her partner can practice and intends to move the focus away from the orgasm and towards a greater familiarity, confidence and nonverbal communication between the parties. These treatments require help from someone with special sexological training and experience. In cases where orgasm disorder caused by sexual trauma and abuse are specially always necessary.

Drugs?

There is no good evidence that treatment with drugs can help.

In cases where orgasm disturbance due to medication side effects (e.g., by treatment with antidepressants), one can experiment with dose modification or change of product. This must be done in collaboration with your doctor as it may be dangerous to interrupt a drug treatment prematurely.

Preventive treatment

Good knowledge of the body and of their own desires and needs can to some extent prevent sexual dysfunctions. The principle of taking responsibility for his own sexual pleasure is also important. You have to teach yourself how to achieve optimum sexual satisfaction – and you must dare to tell your partner what you like. Couples who are able to communicate sexual problems, also have the best chance of solving them.

How is long-term prospects?

When sex is no longer followed by enjoyment, it can seem more like a duty than as a mutually satisfactory play. Renewable orgasm difficulty often leads to sexual desire decreases, and when there will be longer between sexual encounters can cause frustration and conflict in relationships.

How successful treatment of orgasm problems when processed by sexological specialists vary considerably. Orgasm disorders after sexual assault or serious pelvic disorders can be very difficult to treat – while orgasm difficulties caused by fatigue or performance anxiety, typically disappear when the external conditions improve.

Regardless of the cause of orgasm problems it is certain that the woman’s own motivation to do something about the problem is a necessary and very important beginning. The same is the ability to talk openly and honestly about the problems in the relationship.